Grounded vs. Reactionary Desires
Have you ever started a conversation knowing you were not in the right frame of mind to communicate? Why do we subject ourselves to this exercise in futility? Expectations. Our lives are filled with expectations, those we create and those placed upon us. Expectation, in the vein of communication, is what allows our brains to catalogue and recognize consistency, stability and, most importantly, reliability. Without expectation, navigating communication dynamics can feel like steering a ship without a rudder. What we often miss is that many of our expectations are unilateral. Without conveying my expectations to my audience how can I possibly expect them to be met? More importantly, how can I hold someone to an expectation I, alone, have created? Beliefs, emotions, narrative, these are but a few of the building blocks for expectations. Bridging individual expectations to group comprehension is one of our core tenants for realistic expectations. Such expectations are set by establishing healthy boundaries within communication. Setting healthy boundaries begins with identifying the beliefs we hold of the person we are communicating with and testing these beliefs against what is being behaviorally demonstrated to us. Through our co-parent coaching program, we set out with clients on a journey to unravel the difficulties and bridge the gaps between respective communication styles. In our class “Grounded vs. Reactionary Desires”, we discuss how emotion, and its impact on perception, plays into effective communication. Feel free to submit a submission to learn more.